Monday, November 2, 2009

286 - What is underneath the anger?

When we believe that the "problems" we have with another person are their fault, what we are doing is avoiding feeling our own shame/hurt by transferring the shame to the other by blaming them. No blame. The solution seems to be to allow ourselves to feel the shame/hurt under the anger. Blame destroys relationships and self-esteem.
Peace,
Ken

http://www.kenlewiscounselor.net

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