209 - "Two lost souls"

When we use, consciously or unconsciously, any of the avoidance mechanisms Iisted in my post #205 we will activate/trigger shame in other people. They will in turn transfer the shame back to us with one of the avoidance mechanisms and on and on it can go. I call this "two lost souls" triggering each other and it's no-ones fault. Although we are all responsible for our selves, our feelings and actions, there is no basis for blame in my view. When I blame someone it is always when I feel shame and then they will often feel shame and थेंblame.

Peace,
Ken

Instructions posted between #197 and #198.