265 - A form of self-support

One way to support ourselves when we are feeling shame is to remember what support felt like in our bodies in the past when we have felt supported by someone's understanding, acceptance and compassion and replicate that feeling now.
Peace,
Ken

http://www.kenlewiscounselor.net/

264 - shame/judgment

When we judge someone it is our self-hate/shame being projected outwards towards others. Then our shame beats us up for judging someone. No blame.
Peace,
Ken

www.kenlewiscounselor.net

Taking time off

Hi folks, I'm taking a few days off, without a computer, so these emails will resume on 9-28 or 9-29. Thank you for your interest. Just a reminder that all the emails from March 09 on is stored on the blog listed below if you would care to review some.
Peace,
Ken
www.kenlewiscounselor.net

263 - Challenging shaming thoughts

I encourage you to replace the voice of shame messages, when they come up, with messages containing some degree of understanding, acceptance and compassion. Changing our brains with positive messages and positive relationships is a way to change our minds about ourselves and others. Challenge the shaming thoughts when possible.
Peace,
Ken

www.kenlewiscounselor.net

262 - Meditation

Meditation can be useful in healing shame by its quieting effect and allowing us to slow down to notice the voice of shame with its negative messages. Of course, meditation is also helpful in any spiritual practice you pursue. Sitting for ten minutes and gradually lengthening it to twenty minutes per day can be a good support for your healing. This is a tool not a whip so don't beat yourself with it.
Peace,
Ken

www.kenlewiscounselor.net

261 - Resensitization in the healing process

Growing up in a painful family and culture required alot of us to become desensitized to our feelings/sensations as a way of surviving. It's useful for us to learn how to sense our physical and emotional sensations in our bodies and also how to name them. Having a feelings list available can help in learning how to know more about our feelings and therefore know more about our wants and needs.
Peace,
Ken

www.kenlewiscounselor.net

260 - Shame awareness

When we compare ourselves to others, either better than or less than, it means that we are feeling shame and it is usually unconscious. Becoming more aware of our shame brings opportunities to feel it, share it and heal it a little at a time.
Peace,
Ken

www.kenlewiscounselor.net